Thursday, October 9, 2008

A question you never ask a woman...

...is "are you pregnant?" I had a woman ask me just that today. Then, she dug herself even deeper and said, "Oh, well, you must have just had your baby, then, right?" I replied to her (almost sarcastically...) "Yeah, like 11 months ago." Then, just when I thought she couldn't put her foot further into her mouth, she said, "Oh, well, you must not have gotten rid of your baby fat yet." WHAT?!?! Who says that kind of thing to someone they don't even know??? I wanted to ask her, "Are you all there?" but, unlike her, I can keep my mouth shut. I just replied with a smile, "Well, I have lost almost 20 lbs since May...I would say that is a start!" All the while, in my mind I was making up words like the father in The Christmas Story. Sigh.

5 comments:

Michelle said...

How akward! Those moments happen when you are pregnant also. Last week a woman asked me my due date. When I told her the baby was due in February, she said: "Wow! Your baby is going to be HUUUGE! Are you sure you are not having twins!"
I just smiled and said, "Lord willing, the baby will be healthy."

April said...

That is crazy! You do NOT look pregnant. You look great. I am so proud of you. You have worked hard to get to where you are. Keep it up friend.

Lori-Lynn Navarro said...

I've had that happen to me too! Very frustrating especially when you are working on getting the weight off so hard! I've promised myself that I will never ask another woman that question, unless I am absolutely sure! :) And if not, don't ask!

Hazeleyessue said...

Michelle- your baby doesn't look huge! What a ridiculous comment!

April - thanks for the encouragement!

Lori-Lynn- I totally agree. If the woman doesn't look like she is wearing a basketball under her shirt, then don't even bother asking if she is pregnant.

The Guddat's said...

Thank you for bringing attention to a serious problem some people seem to have...foot in mouth disease. Honestly, unless a woman brings up her pregnancy I never mention it for that very reason. I don't care if she is even rubbing her belly! I have been a bystander during one those episodes and it's like watching a train wreck. I am glad you handled it with such dignity and grace, and trust me I would have been sending up my own cloud too(inner thoughts of course) just like the dad on A Christmas Story.